Everything I Needed to Know About Being a Girl I Learned from Judy Blume
Copyright © 2007 by Jennifer O’Connell
“Then. Now. Forever…” copyright © 2007 by Megan McCafferty
“We Interrupt Our Regularly Scheduled Programming for a Judy Blume Moment” copyright © 2007 by Jennifer O’Connell
“The One That Got Away” copyright © 2007 by Stephanie Lessing
“Boys Like Shiny Things” copyright © 2007 by Laura Ruby
“A Long Time Ago, We Used to Be Friends” copyright © 2007 by Megan Crane
“Cry, Linda, Cry” copyright © 2007 by Meg Cabot
“The M Word” copyright © 2007 by Lara M. Zeises
“Do Adults Really Do That? Does Judy Blume Really Do That?” copyright © 2007 by Laura Caldwell
“I Am” copyright © 2007 by Erica Orloff
“Forever…Again” copyright © 2007 by Stacey Ballis
“Then Again, Maybe I…” copyright © 2007 by Melissa Senate
“Vitamin K, Judy Blume, and the Great Big Bruise” copyright © 2007 by Julie Kenner
“It Wasn’t the End of the World” copyright © 2007 by Kristin Harmel
“Freaks, Geeks, and Adolescent Revenge Fantasies” copyright © 2007 by Shanna Swendson
“Guilty’s House” copyright © 2007 by Jennifer Coburn
“A Different Kind of Diary” copyright © 2007 by Elise Juska
“Are You Available God? My Family Needs Counseling” copyright © 2007 by Kyra Davis
“The Mother of All Balancing Acts” copyright © 2007 by Beth Kendrick
“The Wienie Girl’s Guide to Making Friends” copyright © 2007 by Berta Platas
“Brave New Kid” copyright © 2007 by Diana Peterfreund
“Breaking Up Is Hard to Do—Especially with Your BFF” copyright © 2007 by Lynda Curnyn
“The Importance of ABC’s” copyright © 2007 by Kayla Perrin
“Superfudged” copyright © 2007 by Cara Lockwood
“Are You There, Margaret?” copyright © 2007 by Alison Pace
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Contents
Then. Now. Forever…
Megan McCafferty
We Interrupt Our Regularly Scheduled
Programming for a Judy Blume Moment
Jennifer O’Connell
The One That Got Away
Stephanie Lessing
Boys Like Shiny Things
Laura Ruby
A Long Time Ago, We Used to Be Friends
Megan Crane
Cry, Linda, Cry
Meg Cabot
The M Word
Lara M. Zeises
Do Adults Really Do That?
Does Judy Blume Really Do That?
Laura Caldwell
I Am
Erica Orloff
Forever…Again
Stacey Ballis
Then Again, Maybe I…
Melissa Senate
Vitamin K, Judy Blume, and the Great Big Bruise
Julie Kenner
It Wasn’t the End of the World
Kristin Harmel
Freaks, Geeks, and Adolescent Revenge Fantasies
Shanna Swendson
Guilty’s House
Jennifer Coburn
A Different Kind of Diary
Elise Juska
Are You Available God? My Family Needs Counseling
Kyra Davis
The Mother of All Balancing Acts
Beth Kendrick
The Wienie Girl’s Guide to Making Friends
Berta Platas
Brave New Kid
Diana Peterfreund
Breaking Up Is Hard to Do—Especially with Your BFF
Lynda Curnyn
The Importance of ABC’s
Kayla Perrin
Superfudged
Cara Lockwood
Are You There, Margaret?
Alison Pace
Then. Now. Forever…
Megan McCafferty
Then
You can’t blame Mrs. Henderson for giving her daughter a copy of Forever on her eleventh birthday. Like all of us in Girl Scout Troop 196, Kim was a die-hard Judy Blume fan. Of course, I prided myself on being the most avid admirer of all, the only one in our troop to have read every Judy Blume book available in the Bayville Elementary School library, from Are You There God? It’s Me, Margaret to Then Again, Maybe I Won’t. So as I watched Kim tear open the Smurf wrapping paper to reveal a previously unheard-of novel by my favorite author—one that promised a timeless teenage love story on its cover—I became instantly and insanely jealous.
And that was before I learned that Forever was The Sex Book.
This discovery didn’t take long, as I had taken it upon myself to “hold on” to the book as Kim opened up other gifts. I feigned interest in her new Duran Duran cassette, the assortment of rainbow ribbon barrettes, even the Cabbage Patch doll named Annalisa Marie. My fascination with the book and disinterest in the birthday loot deepened, until I was finally able to usher Kim and the rest of the guests upstairs to her bedroom.
“Listen to this,” I whispered as I went on to read the book’s notorious first sentence, about a girl genius named Sybil who had “been laid by at least six different guys.” Been laid! In the first sentence! Could this be the same Judy Blume I knew and loved? I wondered what was more stunning: The sex or its source? It was a far cry from the bust enhancement exercises in Margaret or even the wet dreams in…Maybe I Won’t.
With the provocative opening as incentive, Kim, the other girls, and I bounced up and down on the frilly pink canopy bed, each taking turns skimming through the book, trying to outdo each other with the discovery of another dirty passage. Page 20: Michael tried to unhook Katherine’s bra. Page 25: Michael felt her up under her sweater, then fumbled on the snap of her jeans. Page 40: Katherine’s eleven-year-old sister accused her of “fucking” Michael in her bedroom!
Our fingers flew over page after page, only stopping when we hit a word such as “sex,” “sexy,” “moans,” “penis,” “sex,” or “sex.” Not surprisingly, we gave ourselves away. Mrs. Henderson—alerted by our eardrum-cracking shrieks—came through Kim’s door, demanding to know the source of our hysterics. Mrs. Henderson was a divorcée, the neighborhood Avon lady, and our acting troop leader. She favored pearly pink lipstick, acid-washed jeans, and brassy hair teased to Jersey perfection—a combination of artistry and products that I admired and never mastered. We all loved Mrs. Henderson and copped to the book’s carnal content just as quickly as she removed it from Kim’s clutches. She must have known that Troop 196 viewed her as being more hip and progressive than the other moms, so rather than merely banning Forever from our fourth-grade social circle, Mrs. Henderson told all our mothers that she would be happy to lend it to anyone in the troop, if they gave written parental permission.
My mother, of course, flatly refused. Though she didn’t seem that different from Mrs. Henderson on the outside—she, too, wore jeans and rarely left the house without applying mascara or “hot rollering” her highlighted blonde hair—she was, at heart, the result of sixteen years of Catholic education.
“Mooooooooom,”
I whined as she prepared that night’s dinner, something involving red meat and a few token vegetables in a crock pot. “Why can’t I read it?”
“It’s not appropriate for a ten-year-old,” she replied without looking away from the flesh on the cutting board.
“I’m almost eleven!” My birthday was, in fact, a week after Kim’s.
“It’s not appropriate for an eleven-year-old!” she said, slicing down the blade. “I’m not sure it’s appropriate for anyone at all!”
“Mooooooooom.”
“Megan Beth, if you want to know about…” She hesitated here, waving her knife in the air. “That sort of thing…you should ask me.”
This was a horrifying and altogether impossible proposition. Who wanted to talk to her mom about that sort of thing? But my mother had invoked my middle name, so I knew better than to continue my fight. Fortunately, all my years as a precocious book lover had paid off. Reading comprehension was my strong suit, so even though I’d only skimmed the book, I got the gist of the whole plot: Katherine and Michael were seniors in high school. They met. They fell in love. And they had sex.
Some crucial details I committed to memory and could still recall twenty-one years later:
1. Michael named his penis Ralph (page 73).
2. Michael “came” too soon, before they got a chance to do it (page 100. I had only the vaguest idea what that meant. Something came out of him? Like pee? And why would that stop them from doing it?)
3. Michael devirginized Katherine on a multicolored rug because her blood could have stained the bedsheets (page 101).
After Kim’s sleepover, Forever turned into a game I played alone in my bedroom. Katherine (my Brooke Shields doll) made love with Michael (Ken) in an empty tissue-box bed. Pre-Forever, making love had meant sleeping in a bed naked with someone. Very little effort involved. Post-Forever, I pretended that Ralph was hidden inside Brooke-as-
Katherine. Of course, Ken-as-Michael didn’t have a penis, and his anatomical incorrectness suited my fantasies just fine. I still wasn’t sure what a penis looked like, having only glimpsed at my baby brother’s teeny unit as my mother changed his diaper, but I was simultaneously enthralled and repelled by the idea of seeing one. My nascent pangs of lust left me confused and queasy, similar to the nausea I felt whenever I tried to read a book in the backseat of a moving car.
Later that spring, Troop 196 earned points toward community service badges by cleaning up a local beach. After a heated argument in Mrs. Henderson’s minivan over one pop star’s supremacy (Cyndi Lauper vs. Madonna was a popular debate at the time, and I was always in the minority opinion), the other girls piled out of the van together singing “Girls Just Wanna Have Fun” louder than necessary as I stomped off to a more secluded area to work by myself. I stuffed my trash bag in defiance, silently mouthing the lyrics to my favorite song. Like a virgin. (Hee!) Touched for the very first time…
It was almost time to head back when I discovered a tattered copy of Playgirl hidden among the bottle caps and cigarette butts in the dune grass. The centerfold was miraculously intact. The model was in full-on hair-band mode, wearing a black leather studded jacket and nothing else. He was posed in front of a microphone, head thrown back, eyes shut tight as if he were belting out a power ballad…or on the verge of splooging all over the stage. His ginormous penis was obviously impressed with the performance, as it was in the throes of a standing ovation.
Even at eleven years old, this whole setup struck me as absurd. I mean, what would possess this guy to perform in a leather jacket and no pants? Duh. It made me wonder how Katherine could possibly look at Ralph-the-Penis without cracking up. How could she get hot and bothered by the idea of that…that…thing poking around inside her? It made no sense.
As unsexy as it was, I had no doubt that my fellow Scouts would take a prurient interest in the centerfold. My find could catapult me into popularity, if only for the rest of the afternoon. But I also knew if Mrs. Henderson found out and told my mom, the possession of pornographic materials would surely lead to a major grounding. My parents would be appalled, but my peers would be impressed. It was the virgin/whore, Cyndi/Madonna conundrum, and in this case, the good girl in me won out. I stuffed the Playgirl pages deep in my trash bag and didn’t say another word about them.
Not long after that mystifying first introduction to the male genitalia, my mom took it upon herself to educate me in that sort of thing. She brought me across the street to my best friend Adrienne’s house, which to this day remains the most orderly and pristine place I have ever visited. If Adrienne or her mom ever wore jeans, they were of the starched-stiff, high-waisted variety that could be subcategorized as slacks within the taxonomy of denim. We sat on the plump couch. Me, slumped and skeptical. Adrienne, respectful and ramrod straight like the ballet dancer she was. Together, in their darkened, dust-free family room, we watched a very special filmstrip borrowed from the middle school health class I would take two years later.
The mere mention of the word “filmstrip” hopelessly dates me, I know. As a brief primer for those who have come of age in the digital era, a filmstrip entertained and informed one boring picture at a time, with a breathy narrator on a cassette tape going on at length about the subject represented by each still frame. When the anonymous speaker finished her oration, the cassette would signal the need to manually forward the reel to the next boring picture with a mechanical-sounding BOOOOOP!
A diagram of the female reproductive system. BOOOOOP! A bottle of douche with a red slash warning that it is not a valid method of birth control. BOOOOOP! A grinning girl running rapturously through a field of wildflowers feeling so free and April fresh…ummm…because she has just used the douche for non-birth-control purposes? BOOOOOP! This last image was particularly striking. I had just branched out of the Blume canon to read Go Ask Alice, and it seemed more likely to me that this girl was having some sort of acid freak-out and was not, as the voice-over implied, simply carried away by the joys of reproductive maturation.
It was this primitive form of audiovisual infotainment that taught me all about the 3 P’s: Puberty, Periods, and Pregnancy. I’d go through Puberty, get my Period, and—if I wasn’t careful—I’d get Pregnant and ruin the rest of my life. One P conspicuously deemphasized was Penis, which was discussed in the most clinical manner and only in regard to how it could be used to get me P for Pregnant and (repeat it with me) ruin the rest of my life. I remember thinking how much more interesting the lesson would have been if the filmstrip had been an actual movie starring Brooke Shields with a soundtrack by Michael Jackson. Yet it had the desired effect on my best friend. Adrienne had six years of Catholic school education behind her and couldn’t wait to make a vow of lifelong chastity.
“I’m never going to have sex,” she proudly declared to her mom.
And I thought, That’s because you didn’t read the good parts in Forever.
Over time, Forever lost its hold on me as the dominant inspiration behind my sweatiest daydreams. As I left my (secular) elementary school behind, The Sex Book was replaced by more visual and visceral stimuli including (1) the T&A teen flick Private School, in which a rich red-haired temptress taunts Matthew Modine with a bouncy topless horseback ride; (2) the “Take My Breath Away” Top Gun tongue bath between Tom Cruise and Kelly McGillis; (3) any River Phoenix movie. At twelve, thirteen, and fourteen years old, these were the images that aroused confusing pit-of-my-belly longings for…for what exactly?
I figured I’d finally find out at fifteen, when I got my first serious boyfriend. B. was the first boy to kiss me. It took place in our school’s parking lot right before the buses were about to pull away. A meaty proboscis pried open my puckered lips and proceeded to probe the rest of my face. His wet tongue roamed around, more outside my mouth than in, perhaps so that it could be easily viewed at a distance, thus putting an end to the hassling the basketball team was giving him to “French” me already. This inauspicious start might have served as a warning o
f letdowns to come.
Back then, I never could have imagined that those disappointments would serve me well and I would be lucky enough to make my living just as Judy Blume made hers, telling fictional stories about teenage girls struggling with the choices before them. And though I imagine our story is more common than not, when B. asked me out at fifteen, he had no idea that I would turn out to be a professional writer. Or perhaps he did. Either way, despite countless battles and breakups and get-back-togethers, B. turned out to be my only serious boyfriend in high school. Together, we fumbled through that first kiss and the other firsts that followed.
And none of it was his fault.
Now
Not too long ago, I spotted a paperback copy of Forever at my local library. I hadn’t picked it up since squealing over the good parts at Kim’s sleepover two decades earlier. I couldn’t help but notice that it hadn’t been checked out in more than a year. No surprise there. In a discussion about influential authors, I’d once asked an audience of about a hundred high school students if they had read Forever, and only about a half-dozen hands went up. And these girls had read it only because they had been encouraged by their moms, for whom it had been an unforgettable rite of passage.
Yes, what my mom had once forbidden was now a source of mother/daughter bonding. When I shared this irony with my audience, they were dumbfounded. “What was so scandalous?” asked a particularly blunt sophomore. “Katherine didn’t even give him a blow job.” They were even more surprised when I told them that Forever remains one of the most banned books by parents and educators. Of course, these conflicting attitudes regarding teen sexuality are reinforced in the media, which depicts our nation’s youth as being equally torn between public purity pledges and private rainbow parties.
I’m on the more liberal side of the ideological divide, so I picked up Forever that day in the library thinking it would be nothing more than a nostalgic hoot. A quaint throwback to the era of fondue parties, “queers,” and VD. And yes, as I read it for the first time in its entirety, I chuckled at the seventies-style Public Service Announcements I had originally skipped over in favor of more salacious material. Like when Katherine’s grandmother—her grandmother!—sent pamphlets from Planned Parenthood and encouraged her to go on the pill. Or when her mother wanted to have a heart-to-heart talk about a newspaper survey on the subject of sexual liberation. And when Katherine’s acquaintance, Sybil—the nympho genius from the infamous first sentence—got pregnant because she made the most heinous error of all: sex without love.